I’ve always known I was bisexual. And in today’s day and age, it’s really no biggie. But for years I beat myself up about my orientation – and to this day I’ve only ever dated men.
My Scare Your Soul challenge was more internal. It was to fully accept myself and to tell others – besides my super close friends. So I did – and as it turns out, there are so many other thirty-somethings, like me, that are just coming out as bi or figuring things out about themselves. I feel a sense of solidarity. It’s important for me to be open now, regardless of whom I date or whom I’m attracted to (and even if I end up in a hetero-normative relationship) because I don’t want any future kids hating themselves or suffering internally, as I did. If anything else, I’m saying what I’m saying so that my inner child knows she will always be loved. She is/I am LOVED.
This October, I’m finally taking a deep dive into my finances. After quitting drinking 10 years ago, I slowly transferred addictive and impulsive behavior to spending. My narrative has always been scarcity – debt and paycheck-to-paycheck living. This month I’ve decided to face the facts and I’ll be working with a financial recovery coach to 1) address my underlying issues and b) get some practical fixes. I don’t need to be rich (although I wouldn’t say no) but my five year goal is to be financially comfortable – to be out of debt, to have some savings, and to be completely free to travel the world.
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